It is never a good feeling to be brokenhearted. Whether you have been cheated on by your partner of five years, or your partner admitted that they’re gay or going straight, or the relationship turned out to be fake. Sometimes, a relationship is simply not working anymore and even if a breakup is amicable, it would still end up hurting you. Almost everyone in this world has been hurt by a breakup, unless you’re like one in a million who found “The One” right away and ended up marrying or living with that person.
Not everyone is lucky like that, and some people need to get hurt to be able to learn from their previous relationships so they could prevent things to happen again. However, different people respond to breakups differently. There are some who gets who just hate on the world and become bitter when it comes to relationships, and then there are some who just jumps into relationships so fast and it usually would end fast because that person is no longer looking for anything “serious”.
But what exactly is the right way to make yourself feel better after a breakup? Here are some Steps on Becoming a Better You After A Break Up
“Every great experience starts with a decision” – Unknown
Step 1 – ACCEPT EVERYTHING
Yes, everything, even if it hurts, you must learn to accept that it already happened and the only thing you can do now is to move on from it. It may be difficult at first, but you got to toughen up. It is not the end of the world so stop moping around and get your life back on track. You got to stop reminiscing about the past, you are not headed there. Instead look forward to the things you can actually do to become a better individual.
You don’t have forget that you are still hurt, you don’t have to forget about your ex, you don’t have to forget every memory you two have together because it will always be a part of your life. What you need to accept is the fact that it has already ended and those memories of you together will now just be memories. It is okay to cry because it is normal, especially when you feel the pain, but don’t let your pain control you, it is just a heartbreak and you can always get up and move on. To avoid the trap of getting into an emotional hole, make yourself productive and focus on the good things that might actually happen. There are advantages to being single, so that’s definitely something to look forward to.
Step 2 – REINVENT YOURSELF
A break up can sometimes be a good thing, because this is a chance where you can see how worthy you are as a person and how strong you are for getting over it and moving on. Once you have accepted the reality you are in, you can now work on becoming a better version of yourself. There is nothing to change but there will always be a room for improvement. This is the perfect time for you to do the things you have always wanted to do or be with the people you want to be with, like your friends and family.
You can also reinvent yourself by learning new things like a new hobby you have always wanted to try. There are so many things you can do to become a better version of yourself and all you have to do is to look at things in a different way. You are strong enough to move on, you are brave enough to conquer the world and you are worthy enough to become a better person, not just for yourself but for the people who cares for you.
Step 3 – Welcome New Opportunities and Relationships
There are many opportunities waiting for you in this life. All you have to do is open your mind and your heart to let it in. But the problem most of the time is, being afraid of taking risks. There is definitely nothing wrong about being scared of it, but you have to realize that being afraid is holding you back and you shouldn’t let it get the best of you. You are the one that is in control of your life so you are the only one who can get over that fear.
Same goes when it comes to opening your heart and mind for new relationships. You are scared of getting hurt again? Well, you have to remember that love always comes with pain. It is inevitable, and it would hurt more if you didn’t take the risk because you let your fear get to you so you may miss out a chance that you’re going to regret for the rest of your life. This life is meant to be lived, and in order to live it, we have to face the challenges no matter how difficult. A breakup, as they say, won’t kill you — and what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.